I SEE A LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL!!!!

I know this phase can mean many different things, but I'm using it in reference to Kid #1. I have been talking at length about some of the stuff he's been going through. Well on Friday, I had a breakthrough.

About a year and a half ago I met a woman at a confernce who was telling me about her 14 yr-old twin boys who had just been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. If you've never heard about it before, it's one of the "spectrum disorders" associated with autism. It has to do with kids (mostly boys) who have difficulty with social skills. Actually there's alot more to it, but I have a limited amout of time to write right now. While she was describing some of her boys habits, behaviors, etc. I sat there with my mouth agape . . .

She described Kid #1 to a T!

That night I called Hubby and asked him to pull up some info for me off the internet so I could read it when I got home.

To say my Hubby got defensive is a VAST understatment. He basically blew me off.

I tried to explain to him that I didn't KNOW if he had it, but I was interested in finding out more about it.

He wouldn't do it.

Fast forward to last Thursday night. We were sitting up talking and he tells me, "I wish there was a way to help him (Kid #1) with some of the stuff he's going through." I brought up the subject of Asperger's again, and this time . . . he listened.

I told him that we probably needed to start with our school psychologist (who already knows our son because of some work she did with him in K & 1st grade). When I talked to her about what had been going on with him and my concerns, what did she say?

"I've thought that he could possibly have Asperger's . . . "

WHY DIDN'T SHE TELL ME!!!!

She told me that she hesitates to talk to parents about these types of issues for fear of the same reaction I got from Hubby 1 1/2 years ago.

Go figure . . .

So now I have a plan on what to do. I'm going to be sending a letter to the principal requesting an assessment for social communication skills, and go from there.

Am I scared shitless? You bet!

But now, as I said before, I see a light at the end of the tunnel and we can deal with this head on.

As I've said before . . . my life is NEVER boring!

I know, I haven't posted Kid #3's party pics yet . . . I'll try to do it later.